What is your definition of beauty? Is it one that serves you? Is it one that empowers you and inspires you, or is it one that hinders you and brings you down? Is it one that constantly puts you in a place of comparison?
A little over a year ago as the pandemic began, I had an epiphany, so to speak. I realized that I had had enough body shame, and was sick of being told by society’s standards that I was not enough. I knew I had to take my power back - and that’s exactly what I did. I created my own definition of beauty, did a ton of inner work, and gave society a big old ‘F-you!’ in the process!
The moment I allowed myself to let go of the standards I had been pursuing for so many years, I felt free. I finally felt like I was me, and I had broken free of those false standards that had held me back for so long. Loving myself was never about changing who I was or how I was, it was about learning to love myself unconditionally.
True unconditional self-love means loving all parts of yourself - even those parts of you that may have made you think you weren’t enough. You have to let yourself be who you are despite societal programming, and the sooner you can break free of that, the sooner you can take your power back.
But how do you begin to heal? For me, it started in the mirror. I learned to stop comparing. I learned to love what I saw and appreciate what I have. I learned to access my inner child who, like the adult me, was hurt and never felt good enough about herself. Together, we learned to be within ourselves and to feel good enough exactly as we are.
Imagine what your life would be like if you could look at yourself and love every part of you. Society has conditioned you to be critical of the way you look, the way you work, the way you behave - but what if you could just love yourself for exactly who you are? No improvements needed.
I went from legitimately hating myself and my body and living with a constant negative internal monologue to learning to love every part of myself. It’s time for us to start loving ourselves, and witnessing ourselves as the Divine gifts we are created to be, and as a result, living more freely and as a bonus, loving and witnessing everyone else.